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May 19 08 10:29 AM

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Saving Troubled Friendships

– Matthew 5:23-24
When we develop friendships, we intend for them to last. But since two fallen human beings are involved, occasional hurt feelings and unmet expectations are likely. If one or both people simply ignore the offense, the relationship can be damaged.

Repairing a troubled friendship requires humility to admit our faults, effort to fix the problem, and time. But the reward is a renewed connection with a valued companion. The process of saving a friendship begins when you acknowledge that damage exists. This takes place the moment you say, “I feel something isn’t right in our relationship. I’d like for us to find and fix the problem.”

It’s helpful to work together to assess how the trouble began. Perhaps it resulted from a misunderstanding, an unresolved conflict, or one person’s busyness. After recognizing the problem, apologize for your part in it. Taking responsibility and saying “I’m sorry” shows your love and commitment to the friendship. Remember that an essential aspect of apologizing is refusing to justify wrong actions or blame others.

An apology must be followed up with amends. Ask your friend what specific action you both can take to rebuild the relationship. Then commit to follow his or her suggestion while occasionally asking, “How am I doing?”

Rather than waiting until their relationship is in trouble, wise friends will go through these steps as soon as they’re aware of having hurt a loved one. Preventative care can soothe minor scrapes before they become serious wounds.

"I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing." ~~John 15:5~~

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May 19 08 1:15 PM

Thanks penny

Deuteronomy 6: 5-6

And thou shalt love the LORD thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might.

And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart:

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May 19 08 2:30 PM

Penny some friendships are not worth salvaging. Some friend want to and try to bring you down to their guttter level of morals. Other friends look at you as a dingbat for lack of better words and use you take advantage of you or your kindness. I have been through both situations. I didn't realize how toxic one friendship was until after I broke it off last June and my hairdresser at the time said that I looked at peace, as if something like a weight had been lifted from my shoulders.
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May 19 08 3:02 PM

i agree, i think the article is talking about friendships worth saving...its true sometimes it is best if friends go into a differ direction but we still should follow the advice above, because then we walk away with a clear heart on it...

"I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing." ~~John 15:5~~

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